When I first heard about Kroger’s Every Day Victories Campaign I started to think about my own life and some of the recent victories in our family. It didn’t take me long to come to the conclusion that there is a new victory EVERY DAY in the life of a mom.
Over the last 15 months I’ve watched Baby E grow daily and reach new milestones, from rolling over for the first time, then crawl, then take her first few steps. Those are all victories in my mind. Right now we currently in the exploring stage, experiencing new boundaries and learning how to communicate stage. Every day Baby E tries something new, says a new word, or shows me how much she cares. Each and every one of those moments makes my heart melt and is a victory in the eyes of a mom.
But as a mom, sometimes an every day victory is not something the kids did but something WE did, or didn’t do. Did you get up before the kids and work out? Did you manage to get all 7 loads of laundry done AND folded in one day? Or did you take time out for yourself and relax a little?
I’m going to get a little personal/serious with all of you today and share a HUGE victory I experienced not too long ago. One thing I don’t talk a lot about on my blog is my freelance work.
When Baby E was about 3 months old I wanted to start working part-time so I decided to start doing marketing/PR freelance work on the side. To my surprise it picked up really fast and before I knew it I was working 20+ hours a week writing proposals, developing creative campaigns and working with some incredible brands. It was my dream job. I could work from home while E was napping, continue to do work that I love, earn an income AND be a stay-at-home mom to my precious little girl. It was perfect.
But as Baby E got older, 3+ naps turned to 2, then down to 1 and soon the amount of time I was able to spend on freelance work was really limited. And just because my time was decreasing didn’t mean the work was following suit. Not only was time an issue, but as E got older I found myself not wanting to work on freelance projects because I wanted to play with her! I wanted to take trips to the zoo, go to the beach, take a long walk to the park and schedule more play dates but I always felt trapped by my freelance schedule and quick turnaround projects.
I hit a point where I was becoming so stressed out over balancing being a mom, household duties, spending time with family and friends and maintaining a blog. But the biggest issue was that I didn’t feel like I was being a good enough mom to E. Even though I tried REALLY hard to only work while she was sleeping and keep awake time for playing, I still felt the mommy guilt. It was taking a HUGE toll on my emotional state and I found myself always questioning my current situation.
I felt guilty for working because I felt like I should be focusing more time on being a mom but I felt guilty for not working because I had this amazing opportunity to make money while working from home.
For months I would wake up with this huge burden on my shoulders, trying to decide what I should do. I would pray and pray but I was not finding a clear answer. Do I suck it up, change my attitude and keep working like so many moms do? Or do I cut back on my clients and be a 100% full-time mom to E?
Since I am a HORRIBLY indecisive person, I was having a really difficult time making a decision until I one day I landed on this post from Alison at Oopsey Daisy (one of my favorite bloggers). It was JUST what I needed to read, someone else in a similar position that finally made her decision. Literally seconds after I read the post, I ran into the home office and told my husband that I made a decision. I was ready to quit outside work and just focus on E. I can’t thank Alison enough for writing that post, I felt like it was written just for me. It was my sign.
I made my decision a little over a month ago and I have been 100% free of ‘work’ for about 2 weeks. Sure, I still have my blog but I hardly consider this ‘work’. It’s what I do to relax!
I feel like a completely new person. When I play with E I feel like I am really playing with her. I don’t feel rushed during the day and I am even starting to plan nightly dinners and work on more projects around the house (I might actually finish the family room after 8 months). I feel like a new me. Right now I am truly happy. You know the type of happy when you feel your heart smile? :)
I’m so grateful for my husband’s support and the ability for me to be a stay-at-home mom to E. I will go back to work one day… one day when the time is right!
That day, I learned that I don’t have to do EVERYTHING and it’s ok to say no. This decision was not only a victory for that day, but a huge victory for the month, may be even the year! Thank for reading my story!
So what about you, have you experienced an every day victory lately? I would love it if you shared. It can be something simple or something life changing.
Hurry in to Kroger and Kroger Banner Stores for P&G’s big sale event, June 10–23!
At Kroger and its banner stores, more than 30 of your favorite P&G brands are at awesome sale prices through June 23, including Tide, Charmin, Cascade, Pampers, Crest and Olay. Look for tags with special prices throughout the household needs and health and beauty aisles, and be on the lookout for even bigger offers – like getting serious dollars off when you buy a bundle of products.
Before hitting the store, visit P&G’s event page on Kroger.com: http://bit.ly/KG6dw5
You can play games like basketball, track and gymnastics to win money off your next Kroger trip, download digital coupons, print a shopping list, and learn more about P&G products!
I was selected for participation in this campaign as a member of Clever Girls Collective.